This has been taking place for a number of years, and I’m legally owed $9,000 to $10,000 of again pay. Though the homeowners made every little thing legit, they’ve made no point out of paying me this owed cash.
The opposite staff usually are not conscious that also they are owed cash. I spoke with a lawyer and though by legislation the cash is owed to me, I should take the enterprise to court docket — or attempt to settle.
I’m so torn. I really feel betrayed by my boss/ buddy however form of obligated to inform my co-workers. They’re owed cash, too. I’m unsure I may even stay pals or work for this firm anymore.
I’ve caught them mendacity to different staff. Ought to I ask my bosses/pals for the money? Ought to I inform the opposite staff?
Mistaken: You must pursue the again pay owed to you, following your lawyer’s recommendation (a letter from the lawyer may encourage the enterprise homeowners to keep away from court docket and give you a good settlement).
You must assume that your friendship is over and proactively search for a place at a unique enterprise, in case you resolve to half firm.
When it comes to notifying the opposite staff, the letter out of your lawyer to the spa homeowners may embrace a sentence strongly suggesting that they take steps to revive again pay to all of their staff. Your lawyer may resolve to contact the opposite staff independently, gathering a number of extra purchasers and billable hours alongside the best way.
The enterprise homeowners ought to assume that all the staff will discover out about this. The spa’s personal lawyer will advise them on the best way to settle, cope with any penalties, and proceed to remain in enterprise, legitimately.
Expensive Amy: Fifty-two years in the past, my sister shared a secret with me on the situation that I inform nobody.
She has 5 youngsters, two along with her first husband and three youngsters with three totally different males (conceived whereas she was nonetheless married to her first husband).
I’m experiencing guilt about holding this secret and really feel my grownup nieces and nephews have a primary proper to know their fact. Her worry of being disowned by her youngsters as soon as they know the reality retains her quiet. Plus, she sees no motive to upset so many households.
Is it her secret to maintain from her 5 grownup youngsters? The letters I learn in your column make it clear that ultimately, with the prevalence of DNA testing, it’s solely a matter of time till that is revealed.
Is it my secret to inform? Your ideas?
Not: Figuring out a secret doesn’t make it “yours.” So this secret just isn’t yours to share.
Sure, your sister’s grownup youngsters do have the proper to know their DNA heritage. Your sister is the one that ought to inform them. She will both inform them herself and have a hope of controlling the narrative, or she will be able to wait till the inevitable DNA search reveals the reality.
Remember the fact that if ANY of the three affected siblings (or their youngsters) register on a DNA web site, they may develop into linked with different DNA kin on the market (unknown half-siblings or their youngsters, as an illustration) and will begin the method of unraveling this very tangled internet.
You may be useful to your sister if you happen to provide to speak this via along with her and guarantee her that you’ll provide her continued emotional assist.
Expensive Amy: “To Tell or Not” puzzled whether or not to inform her future husband about her earlier sexual abuse historical past. I didn’t work via my abuse historical past till after the demise of my abuser, a number of years into my marriage and after the start of my little one.
I lastly bought the nerve to inform my husband by writing a letter outlining what had occurred. His response? “I all the time knew there was one thing improper with you.”
I used to be surprised. He by no means stated something supportive. That was the start of the tip of our marriage.
Had I recognized he would have thought I used to be “faulty,” I in all probability would have by no means married him.
Realized: I’m so sorry. Thanks for providing your perspective.
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