Individuals ought to ask themselves: Is that this similar to one thing I posted lately? Forms of posts that must be minimized in quantity: posts about your youngsters, posts about political or social organizations, advertisements for companies (until it is actually particular or to announce that you’re beginning a enterprise), inspirational mottos, character exams and film quizzes. “Reminiscences” posts must be restricted to issues which might be actually particular (comparable to weddings), not simply your youngsters at an earlier age.
There may be generally a setting for “See fewer posts like this,” however that isn’t at all times profitable. So it will assist if posters would comply with some pointers.
Definitely. However at present, Miss Manners has her fingers full asking folks to not submit insulting rhetoric and lewd propositions. Within the face of all-out verbal warfare, slipping in an additional image of their grandchild looks like a fairly minor infraction. However please, knock your self out.
Pricey Miss Manners: A revered tutorial mentor and later colleague is retiring from a serious college within the metropolis the place we each stay. I’ve been invited to an enormous retirement dinner at an area venue.
The invitation arrived by e mail from a university-sponsored web site. Beneath the RSVP menu, I used to be additional knowledgeable that dinner reservations and a money bar had been out there — at a worth two or 3 times what I’d usually pay for a pleasing night time out. Though I can afford the occasional splurge, I used to be stunned. After discussing it with my spouse, I checked the “regrets” field.
We agreed that there are numerous concepts for having a celebration on a price range and/or cost-sharing, however this method was not a superb one. Understanding the retiree, I do not suppose this was his concept, and I really feel a bit responsible over declining. I do plan to present him a present and pay him a private go to.
Is that this kind of pay-to-play occasion turning into frequent? Is there something I can or ought to say in addition to politely declining?
Widespread or not, utilizing a retirement as a fundraiser by padding the fee is unseemly — and hardly celebratory. Miss Manners feels to your buddy, who, as you say, was undoubtedly coerced into this brazen occasion in his identify.
If you wish to be exceedingly gracious, you would possibly invite him to a easy banquet at your private home, telling him, “The college occasion appeared a bit impersonal. We’d like to have you ever over to have fun your retirement privately.” And in case you are feeling cheeky, you would possibly add, “We promise to not cost for the drinks.”
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